Oh, that feeling!

Almost every evening Tom and Suzie have the same conversation, since this lockdown started…..the only difference is, some days it is Tom who starts and other days its Suzie!

  • I don’t think I am feeling up to it today!
  • I actually didn’t sleep well last night, don’t think I have the energy!
  • Can we skip it today, please
  • I am feeling drained already, forget it

Wondering, what are they trying to dodge?

Well, its their daily workout regime that they have started online 🙂

Depending on who is not in the mood among Tom and Suzie, the other one pushes and they both end up doing their workouts regularly five to six days a week!

Ask them at the end of the session, and they can’t help but say – “Oh, what a feeling!”

Though, physically, their bodies are all full of sweat, heart is pumping so rapidly, they feel exhausted but mentally, they feel victorious and so thankful that they did the right thing 🙂

This is just a very small example, but believe me, in life, we use the same dodging to get away from every little challenge that we tend to face in our lives.

Though, we know that the outcome of accepting those challenges would give us that feeling of victory, that sense of achievement and we will end up saying – “Oh, what a feeling!”, but just because it is beyond our comfort zone, we tend to convince ourselves mentally with numerous reasons for not doing it! Do you agree?

Like Tom and Suzie, who shared their feelings and emotions and helped and pushed each other…… Do you share what you feel with your loved ones?

If you do, you are so damn lucky my friend :). And if you don’t, I urge you my friend, to start sharing what you feel and you may be able to achieve much more in your life with this little change. May be its that little push from a loved one, that can help you explore a talent, a passion, a quality that you possess within!

Life is not a bed of roses and indeed, we don’t want it to be either 🙂 . You may like to read my earlier blog Thank God life is not a “bed of roses”!)

To conclude: Reach out to your loved ones and help them push to achieve their limits. They may complain initially but in the end, they will be so thankful to you for your love and support. Also, let your guard down and receive help when offered by your friends and family and cherish every moment, when you end up saying, “Oh, what a feeling!” 🙂

Sleep deprived Anna!

My colleague & friend, Anna, is always sleep deprived and forever complaining. Last month, when she shifted to her new apartment, guess what did I gift her? Blackout Curtains 🙂 and you know what, she is eternally grateful beyond words!

You may laugh but its true……its been on numerous occasions that I had to deal with grumpy Anna every Monday morning, because tiny rays of light in her room post dawn won’t let her enjoy her precious weekend sleep!

Those who have insomnia or bad sleeping patterns can understand and empathize with Anna’s pain, but for others, it is no big deal, isn’t it! In a dark room, one ray of light can bother someone so much! Wondering, where I am going with this 🙂

Okay, think about this….If ”Light” is absence of ”Darkness”, then,

ABSENCE OF WHAT’? IS ”LIFE”

If we can find an answer to that, it may help us live a Fulfilling Life…Lets try!

IS ABSENCE OF “DEATH” IS “LIFE”?

Oh my God, it is getting too intense! Wait a moment….to put it simply, ask yourself these simple questions:

  • Do you actually celebrate Life everyday because you are not Dead?
  • Do you live Life fully like it is a “Gift”?
  • Do you enjoy the “Present”, that you have now, called Life?

I promise, just answering these simple questions to ourselves, every morning and night, will help us transform our lives for good, try it!

Those rays that bothered Anna symbolize the difficulties that we face in our dark room of Life and it is us who need to decide if we wish to crib like Anna and waste our beautiful life or put out our blackout curtains, with the help of our family and friends and enjoy this gift of life, till we have it!

Sometimes, no actually, most of the times, Complicated problems have a very simple solution, Do you agree?

Imagine how many more years would she have been sleep deprived if she hadn’t expressed her concerns to me, as a friend and hadn’t received the gift that helped her sleep better!

This is just a small example to help us think that we always have options and most of the times, we remain unaware. Speak up, reach out, discuss your problems, your feelings, your concerns with your friends and family and trust me, they may have a very simple solution to a problem that you think is most difficult!

To conclude: Look around and see if any of your friends need help, an ear to talk, a heart to listen….help them. If you are the one seeking help, my friend, then, please don’t hesitate, You are Alive, till you are not Dead and believe me, no one will judge you for anything and even if they do, let them! Life is much more precious than someone’s few nasty thoughts, isn’t it! Now draw those Blackout curtains to negativity and enjoy Life. Do remember, We always Sulk alone & Enjoy together 🙂

Don’t worry, I have it all planned!

Well, we all have plans, for the day, for the month, for the year, for our lives…. not just that, we have plans for our spouses, our children’s lives too, isn’t it!

When 2020 started, many of us made resolutions to stick to and ideally that is what we do around each new year and our birthdays as well but how many do we end up sticking to?

Now, take a moment in the current COVID 19 times, to think and analyze –

“What happened to all our planning?

It was someone’s Wedding, someone’s Graduation ceremony, someone’s First US posting, someone’s First job, someone’s 90th Birthday celebrations, well, someone’s First Birthday celebrations and so on…… Believe me, many of those involved plenty of hours and months and loads of money…..

Imagine the amount of time and energy we invested in coming out with what we thought was the “Perfect Plan” 🙁

But, Was it?

Take another moment to reflect in the past and you will recall many many more such instances, wherein what happened was totally not in sync with what you had planned as the process or as the outcome.

Wanna know the best part…..I can bet that you now realize that the final outcome of many of those instances is actually much better than what it would have been if things had materialized according to your plan 😊 Isn’t it? But, does that stop us from Planning, of course not 🙂

Don’t you think that its high time that we admit that our plans have no meaning and it only adds to our agony and stress! What’s going to happen will happen and eventually, what will come to our rescue is the good deeds and happiness that we spread across in our beautiful journey called life!

Every morning when you wake up and every night before sleeping, just try to bring this little thought to your mind: “It’s Thy Will” and believe me, gradually your prayers will only have Thank you’s and no Demands!

To conclude: Just go with the flow! Make up your mind, sooner than later to “Surrender to His plan”. Learn to be happy for all that you have got and see the magic it brings to your life! Your general perspective will become positive, you will experience zero stress and I promise you will have many reasons to be grateful for what you have been blessed with in your life 😊 Believe me, just relax and keep smiling everyday and for that you need “No Plan “👍🏻

The overwhelming choices!

Have you wondered if we had limited choices how easy would life be 🙂 It is indeed these choices in life that agitate, excite and confuse us the most. Do you agree?

Okay let’s start with an example. If someone asked you a simple question:

Are you an Optimist?

i. Yes or ii. No

100% replies I presume will be i. Yes, isn’t it 😊

Now the question remains the same, i.e. “Are you an Optimist?”, but now your choices are:

  • Always
  • Never
  • Occasionally
  • Rarely
  • Neutral

Now, you start thinking way deep into a very simple thing and make the situation more complex and complicated resulting in fickle thoughts and a confused mind… Do you agree?

Well, this is exactly what happens every time we face too many choices for anything and everything in our life too. Just to give you a few light examples here:

  • Too many dresses, but I never have anything to wear!
  • Different choices of restaurants/ cuisines but we are always confused what to order or where to dine!
  • Opening Netflix/Amazon/YouTube with numerous choices and wasting more than 15-20 minutes in just deciding what to watch 🙂

Earlier, life was quite simple with ‘black’ and ‘white’, ‘yes’ and ‘no’ kind of choices and then came in ‘grey’ and ‘colors’ and so many variety of choices; we all know the scenario we are in! We all are “Spoilt for Choices”, isn’t it?

To put it simply, it is us, who have kind of complicated our own surroundings by over-extending our desires/ wants and then we end up spending more than half of our valuable lives running towards achieving those unworthy goals, that provide no contentment!

We can be very very happy and contented with limited choices, but Are we?

The biggest learning from this global lock down is to understand that what we have is enough and all we need is a positive mind and patience and trust that “this too shall pass!” and “All is indeed Well“, my friend!

To conclude: Restrain your choices and always be mindful of your acts! The only question that we should ask ourselves each day: “Am I positive and contented ?” And your choices are: A. Yes or B. Getting better than yesterday..… If your answer is A or B, you are on track my friend and no one can make you sad anymore 👍🏻 Congratulations and please keep spreading your positivity with whoever you interact 😊 Keep Introspecting and Reflecting on your acts everyday!

Be Good and Stay Safe!

Tina’s little mind struggle!

Last evening, Tina got hurt while playing and she got some bruises🙁. She came home crying and hugged her Mom, Suzie! After a lot of consoling, poor Tina was taken to a Doctor for a bandage and an injection. When Alex returned, Tina was watching TV lying down on the sofa while Suzie was cooking dinner. What Tina heard her Mom say to her Dad, confused her…… any clues what Suzie said?

Well, Suzie said “Thank God, it’s just this much!”

Hearing these words, Tina felt sad and confused as she was suffering and here her Mom thinks that it’s almost nothing. “How can Mom not see and feel my pain”, wondered Tina’s little mind 🙁

Isn’t it normal, it’s just like ‘Half glass empty’ or ‘Half glass full’ scenario!

Tina with her pain and agony, in her situation, thought the glass was more than half empty, while Suzie thanked God for being so kind and helping Tina get only a few bruises and no ligament tear or fracture! She could manage just with a local physician and didn’t even have to get x-ray done! Isn’t that more than half glass full 👍🏻

This scenario got me thinking….Isn’t it applicable with every situation in our life? Wherever we are, in whatever situation, there are different aspects and how we see it and take it further, makes the whole difference. Mind you, our decisions finally impact not only our present but also help build a better tomorrow.

So whether you see it as empty or full, the glass is yours my friend 🙂

Next time and every time, my friend, try to bring in both the view points (Tina and her Mom or to put it as ‘half glass full’ or ‘half glass empty’) before starting to sulk or being sad. May be there is much more in your glass already that you have ignored to count! Do you agree?

In these times of global lockdown, we have been given this “Gift of Time” to Introspect and Reflect on each and every habit of ours, so when we bounce back, we are better spouses, better friends, better parents/children and first and foremost better human beings 👍🏻

To conclude: Try and include a step in your thought process, to also count the ignored blessings that you have in your life, be grateful for the gifts you have got and never stop earning these blessings from one and all! Please remember, we have much more than numerous others, so no point complaining, my friend! Wear a smile and move ahead with pride and positivity; hold that glass up high and always see it filling till the Sun shines and so do you😊 Be safe!

Observe – Nature has all the answers! Version 3.0

What time than this is better to observe and admire the nuances of Nature?

When the entire mankind is stuck within the confines of their homes, almost globally struggling to fight against a nasty virus, the Nature is at its perfect best, isn’t it?

Healthy air, pleasant weather, flowers blossoming, rivers cleaner, wildlife enjoying their freedom while we, human beings remain locked down!

We are not even sure if this deadly virus is indeed created by Nature ( I strongly think otherwise) or is it another manmade disaster that has resulted in loss of numerous lives and has impacted global economy so hard.

Please remember, Nature has never done any bias among its takers for any of its gifts!

Think about this….we all need “Water” to survive and how much ever rich or poor you are, you have the same thirst that gets quenched with Water and Water only. If you are rich, you may be having more cleaner, mineralized water and you may get to drink it in a silver or crystal glass but Water is Water, my friend.

Nature provided enough and more resources to suffice every living being and if we humans, do not exploit Nature at the rate at which we are doing, these resources will remain available for many generations to come.

As mentioned in my earlier blogs, Observe – Nature has all the answers! Version 1.0 and Observe – Nature has all the answers! Version 2.0 if we try and closely observe nature, God has tried to explain the ways to lead a happy and contended life in very easy yet beautiful ways. Observing and learning from these ways will help each one of us bring in so much of positivity and happiness around us. Guess what, it is totally free and available every where.

Is there a lesson, we can learn from this humble “Glass of Water”?

The water tastes the same, irrespective of the glass you drink it in, my friend. What will you do with a silver or crystal glass, if there will be no water to quench your thirst?

If you observe the qualities of Water, it teaches us to move on with its flow; the rivers teach us to make way; the sea teaches us calmness but the abundance of water can cause flood too! Isn’t it?

Well, we all need learn to differentiate between our “Needs” (the positive aspects of water) and “Wants” (the flood scenario) and now that this lockdown has given us an opportunity wherein we have survived more than a month without unnecessary shopping, not accumulating things we just don’t need….. we should be happy with the fact that we are alive and are with our families healthy and happy! Time to introspect on our future actions, for sure! Do you agree?

To conclude: Be as open as Water, be available to everyone, extend help and support wherever you can. Be light, go with the flow, use your power constructively else the flood will kill and ruin all. We have the choice, and what we choose will decide the way forward from here! Please remember, Every drop counts!

Learning swimming to swim!

For most of you, who know swimming, it is like knowing your native language, simple & easy, isn’t it….But for those who don’t know swimming, it’s the most difficult thing on earth to do! Trust me, because I myself don’t know swimming and I am thus, shit scared of getting drowned in the most shallow pool 😛 on the face of Mother Earth!

Like we need to learn swimming to swim, similarly we need to learn ‘to Live’, ‘to Live’! Confused????

I mean, like Swimming is a form of activity, so is “Life”….

Provided, we take it sportingly and in the right spirit of things! Do you agree?

Well, imagine if we lived our life, not just for living but if we took it as an art or an activity in which we wish to excel in! Will we not put our 100% effort and energy into making every moment worthwhile!

Look back at your life and see if you are doing justice to your learning!

If you are, then you are an inspiration to many, my friend 👍🏻 Keep it up 👏🏻

If you don’t see yourself there yet, then, think what’s stopping you, do some introspection my dear friend, because this life is with us only here and now and let’s mend our ways while we still have time by our side!

Its never too late to learn anything in life, trust me! ‘Past’ is gone and ‘Future’ will come tomorrow, it is indeed this ‘Present’ that we have as the “Gift of Life”.….. we ought to treat this moment as a blessing, isn’t it! But do we?

Love life my friend, enjoy what you have, because millions are dying to live a day of your life, I can bet my money on it! Be grateful and thank God for what you have got and don’t ever leave a chance to share your learning and earn a smile or a blessing! That is all that matters and will matter in the end!

There is a very thin line between “Life spent” and “Life fully Lived” and what you choose early in life decides your journey here and beyond!

To conclude: You can float in shallow water even if you don’t know swimming but to be a Swimming champ, you need to learn the art well, isn’t it! So, choose wisely my friend! Be positive, be happy and be open to learn (age no bar!) as well as open to share your learning….take time to Introspect and Reflect on your actions. Spread love and smiles and you will get your share as soon as it’s due, I promise that 👍🏻:)

A day off for Ana!

My childhood friend, Ana had to take an off for her office today, you know why?

Not because she had to appear for an interview and also not to take care of off her son, Jack….. it was because recently her Mom, Lucy, has been missing out on her medicines and now Ana, during her day today will organize her medications in proper boxes as per Lucy’s daily dosage, so there is minimal chance of a miss out! Sounds familiar?

Well, ever since I was a child I have seen Lucy being that strong woman who did everything to perfection, and by everything I literally mean everything! Since a few years back when Jack was born, though she had lost much of her physical strength but she was still high in her spirits and now🙁 she needs to be reminded and coaxed to have her medicines on time, what a pity! 🙁 But that’s the way life is!

Life really comes full circle!

Suddenly, your Parents become almost like your children who need care, attention and love like a little baby.

If you think your parents need that from you, I urge you to be there for them now while you have this opportunity of being with them! This is the least we can do, for the amount of sacrifices they have done for us, almost their entire life, isn’t it!

There may be moments when you have to be a little stern with them when it comes to their diet, physical activity, sleeping pattern, medications, etc. almost like how they used to be with us when we were kids, isn’t it! Well, don’t be too harsh and strict with them please. Though they may behave like babies but they deserve your 100% love, affection, empathy and attention. Please remember, they stood by you in numerous memorable moments of your life, right from your first step to your first exam and the list can be endless here….your every success, every failure, every agony, every joy…..Dear, its your time now!

You must have heard the saying: “ Why cry over spilt milk!” Have you?

There will be no point in repenting later, my friend. Love them for what they are and do it now, because whatever you are today are only because of their love, their sacrifices and their values, isn’t it!

To conclude: The only debt we can never repay in our lives is towards our parents. It’s okay, if you have to remind them or even politely scold them for their medicines, their lifestyle, their exercise, etc. but always love them and respect them. Parents are a blessing to have in your life and it is indeed their love and blessings that has given us our life and the happiness that we so dearly enjoy and cherish today! Please remember, LIFE DOES COME FULL CIRCLE, so whatever we do, our children are watching us and learning what they are expected to do when we get old 😉

Be careful & be safe Alex!

Every morning when Alex goes to work, Suzie bids him farewell by saying:

Be careful and Be safe my love!

No, this is not a COVID 19 scenario that I am talking about, this was her every day thing since she got married. Wondering why would she tell Alex to be careful and safe each single day!!!!

Well initially Alex wondered it too and so he asked Suzie, why she said what she said to him every single day!

Any guesses, what did Suzie say?

“ I remind you to be careful so that you don’t loose control of yourself and give agony to someone in the bargain…. be mindful of being careful. If we can’t spread happiness then we have no right to add sorrow to other people’s lives, isn’t it! Secondly, by telling you be safe, every day, I try and remind you that I love you and want to see you return Hale and Hearty back to me every single day ❤️. Also, I want you to be safe from bringing any negative energy or thoughts back home! If you can promise me to be careful and safe, trust me, that our house will always be full of happiness and positivity 🙂 !”

Wow, isn’t that an amazing explanation, I love it👍🏻 Reminding ourselves each single day that every time we step out, we have to take care of ourselves not only externally but internally as well!

Have you noticed that in the current scenario, we are constantly checking with our extended family members , friends and even writing to our colleagues and clients and customers to be safe, isn’t it!

Hope we can continue to remind atleast our friends and loved ones, just like Suzie, to keep being careful and safe, not only for their external health but for their internal well being every single day, going forward…. Do you agree?

We all know it but it’s these reminders that help us to keep these thoughts as priorities, right on top of our mind; especially when they are shared by our loved ones!

To conclude: This global lockdown phase has come in our lives to teach us a collective lesson and the sooner we will learn, the faster will be the recovery. Let’s try together to make our World a better, happier and a more compassionate place to be…. Are you with me? Do remember to remind your loved ones to be careful and safe, every single day!

Oh! S/he will never understands me!

Parents, Spouses, Friends, Colleagues……everyone seems to struggle with this one!

Oh! S/he will never understands me!

We always have our point of view, our thoughts, our beliefs and not to miss, our very own expectations and ironically, we have a lot of expectations from our children, our better halves, our friends and colleagues to understand all of these, even without us saying it! Do you agree?

Okay, to bring things to better perspective…. let’s try this little exercise!

Stop, Don’t go!

You can read this simple sentence in so many ways and everyone can have a totally different version of what’s the message being conveyed from the tone, body language, pitch, etc., isn’t it!

The point I am trying to make is that sometimes, no everytime, our Expectations and Perceptions are different than others.

Then, why can’t we just say what we are expecting from the other person, rather than waiting for it to come from them and keep sulking over it 😦

Imagine a loving couple with different ways of expression, which is the case 99% of the times. I can bet that they will be unhappy their whole life; as the wife will keep expecting for the hubby to express and the hubby on the other hand will also be expecting for the wife to understand his love from his subtle actions as he does not believe in expressing with words….

Now, tell me is it absence of love or just different mindsets which is to be blamed. Actually, no one is wrong in this scenario but they are not happy either 😦 Is this agony really worth it?

Trust me, most of time it is indeed just poor communication that can break relationships.

Please remember my friend, when you love them, be it your parents, spouse, friends, and sometimes close colleagues as well…. then just say it what you want from them. It will help bring in a lot of satisfaction, happiness, contentment and team spirit in a relationship, Do you agree?

To conclude: Life is too short to complain, dear! Express yourself, don’t wait for your loved one to understand on their own, cause if its late, one will have to live with that gap / guilt for the rest of their lives 😦 Don’t sulk, don’t complain, if they don’t understand what you want from them…….JUST SAY IT! They may not agree or obey in one go but if they love you, trust me, they will try 🙂

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