Why wait for a rainy day to ask?

Have you ever got stranded in heavy rain……water clogged all around! You are not even equipped with an umbrella or a rain coat and to top it all you are getting late for a crucial meeting. Looking for a shed to avoid getting drenched in rain and somewhere deep in your heart, you are questioning – “Why me?”

Am I right?

When we are troubled, disturbed, uncomfortable, unhappy, demotivated, etc. etc. what is the first thing we do – We question God, Almighty, the power (you can name it whatever you believe in) and try to put the blame on Him for all the troubles and issues that we face in our lives.

With tears flowing our eyes, we keep asking, Why me?

But do we really have to wait for a rainy day or troubled times to ask this lovely question to God – Why me?

Can we try to approach this same question a little differently and see what power and positivity we can bring in our lives with this same question?

The only change that we have to bring is to ask this question to ourselves every morning. Yes, you read it right!

Ask yourself every morning – Why me?

Ask “Why me” for every blessing that God has bestowed on you. Just after you wake up each morning, take a brief moment to observe your blessings – starting with your fully working body parts to your surroundings, your family members, your job, your friends, your house, your bike/car……this list can get endless! You will be amazed with the kind of happiness and positivity you will feel right at the start of the day!

Try creating a daily log of smileys πŸ™‚ and sad faces 😦 and I can bet that you will have 90% smiles πŸ™‚ and 10% sad faces 😦 at the max, that is when you are really really in trouble. But….what do we give importance to?

Especially in troubled times, we forget to show our gratitude for the basics and just keep focusing on our problem and keep complaining. If our body parts didn’t work well or we didn’t have the roof on our head, etc. etc., things could get worse but are we thankful for all those blessings, of course not, because we think all that is granted, it is our right but really is it??

This little practice will not only keep you happy and contented for the good times but will also gradually prepare you for the rainy days in your life. Wondering how?

Well, when you will start understanding and appreciating and thanking God for the abundant blessings He has showered on you regularly then, even during difficult times too, you will be able to notice that you still have enough reasons to thank God than to blame Him for the little trouble that you are facing for the time being.

Believe me, gradually, this little change in our mindset can do wonders in handling difficult situations with a less complaining and a more accepting approach. Remember, it is all part of the master plan and what we sow is what we reap!

So, my friend, keep doing good and accept the will of the divine with smile and gratitude! Positivity and happiness guaranteed for life!

To conclude: Remember to be thankful for what you have as our count of blessings always surpasses our troubles. Stop complaining and learn to be happy and grateful for what you have, as you don’t know but your life is indeed a dream of many….

Aww..consoling little Tina

Tina, my friend’s 3 year old daughter was wailing and crying away to glory! She was just unstoppable. Her mother Lisa, a close friend of mine, was trying every possible trick to talk to her, to convince her that everything was all right. But…!! Tina had closed all channels, she was not listening at all! She was just unstoppable!

I inquired from Lisa about the issue. Hiding her smile what she told me had me in splits for a few seconds. Wondering what was it that made Tina howl and cry?

Well, Tina by mistake had eaten a few seeds of an apple and now from a story that she was told in her play school, she was very sure a tree will grow in her tummy and soon in the future, apples will start oozing out from her mouth πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Though initially I did laugh out on the thought but soon I started appreciating the power of imagination of her little mind!

My mind went into a quest thinking about anything that once taken as a seed can actually literally grow and become bigger and stronger within us! Just like the tree gives fruits, what fruits can come from these seeds?

Any guesses, what it is?

Yes, my friend! You guessed it right! It is indeed my personal favorite “Positivity”!

Just imagine, once the seeds of positivity are sown within us, what a splendid human being we will become! Ideally this should be done at a young age or more so, while we are still children! When our thoughts are positive right from the foundation level, we will be able to see the brighter side of things, even when the things are not happening as per our plan, right?

But its never too late!

How about sowing the seed of positivity within us today?

Patience is the key here! We all understand that a seed does not turn into a tree overnight! It needs constant nourishment and tender care to grow. And then there is hope that one day it will surely turn into a full fledged tree!

Positivity, love, happiness, hope, motivation, encouragement, tenderness, warmth, empathy, etc. etc. Awww…. thinking about what fruits this tree can bear actually gives me goosebumps!!

I wish I could console Tina with this explanation and make her smile but I am afraid she is too young to understand but how about us?

For a moment, be as childlike as my little Tina and create this vision, do the act of planting the seed and feel the power! Wow! imagining this, I literally felt the saplings of positivity in me growing gradually and I have hope that one day a tree will surely stand! Believe me, give it a try! it is totally worth the effort!

Have you wondered that most of the times, when things don’t happen our way, trust me they are not always wrong, they are just different. When we have a positive approach, we will have a receiving mind that will allow us to accept circumstances resulting in abundance of happiness, smiles and contentment.

Let us try to inspire our children, our partners, our friends and peers to also sow their seeds soon, so we can look forward to creating a great positive environment full of happiness and smiles all around. Can you help me please? Believe me, if not today, someday when Tina understands all this, she will be very happy and thankful to us for taking inspiration from her story in creating a better tomorrow for her and for all of us:)

Helping to conclude: Please always remember that we all need positivity in our lives and the onus is on us to create, embrace and spread it. Every little effort will count in this journey called life. Patience is the key as the changes will take time but the result is guaranteed!

Oh! no more, I am Done!

When life was created on earth, only the ‘Needs‘ for their survival were defined! Then came the ‘Wants’ and since then, there is no dearth for choices! Do you agree?

Do you also wonder, how much is really needed to lead a healthy & happy life?

Believe me, it is very very minimal to what we have already gathered till now and each day we all join this rat race to capture more and more, so that we can satiate our wants. Is there an end to this ever, I am afraid not!

The most difficult task for human being is to get contented!

While traveling, imagine yourself at a breakfast buffet that is included with your room charge. I can bet that atleast 95% if not 99% of the times, you will end up over-eating because you have so much available at your disposal. Am I right?

Once we are done, we already know and our inner instincts tell us to STOP and you end up saying, “Oh! no more, I am DONE!”

Now I am wondering, if someone tries to show you an interesting dessert at that instance, how will you react? Most probably, you will wish to look the other side or you will puke! Yucky…. but true, isn’t it!

Like the physical aspect, we have a level of being done with other things too! Within ourselves we need to introspect and know what to do when with our materialistic wants. Like food, we should be aware to say “Oh! no more, I am Done” for these material things too!

These wants could be as small as buying new clothes every now and then to purchasing fancy gadgets and cars.

Watch out your activities, introspect your needs and wants.

Draw your own boundaries and define your level of contentment and then have the courage to announce more to yourself than to the world that yes, now “I am Done!”

Define your own timelines, clarify your targets and then promise yourself that hereafter, I will do everything to be happy and positive rather than fighting for achieving this and that….Learn to say NO to further indulgence!

Being happy, living your life, spending time with your family, enjoying the little moments is what we all strive for! Believe me, most these things do not cost much provided we learn to get contented in life. In this materialistic world, we are indeed spoilt for choices!

Choice is ours! We can gather happiness & positivity or we can keep struggling by collecting more and more things! What say?

We all are aware about this fact that we have got limited time and once this time is gone, it will never come back, so we need to use it wisely! But do we?

Perfection differs – depends how you like your Cup of Tea!

A cup of tea that may be perfect for one may taste horrendous for the other!

Some like it with milk some without, some like it with a pinch of sugar some fully loaded, some like it boiled while others may like simple tea bag tea. Some may like to add condiments like cardamom, cinnamon, herbs and few even black pepper! Oh, the variations can be numerous and end less!

Wondering why am I talking about Tea recipes all of a sudden!

Don’t worry, I remain motivated to share my feelings about life balance and positivity through these blogs and not changing directions :). I would to take this opportunity to thank my readers for sharing appreciation and comments.

One of the feedback that I have constantly received is to share some ways to remain positive. A mantra that can be helpful; and that is the reason why I took up this example of different preferences of Tea and individual choices.

My friend, to begin with let me tell you that there is no perfect recipe for being positive and being motivated in life. It solely depends on You. Yes you & only you!

If it was so straight forward our teachers would have taught us this mantra in school itself and for everybody life would have been so easy but I am afraid that is not the case 😦

Being positive is more about your own conviction, your inner calling! Hope you agree!

I can only help you with the preparation part of it with the below sharing:

  • FIND YOUR POSITIVE CONNECT: We are so lucky to have access to internet! There is so much content available online in the form of Videos, stories, write-ups, etc. that we can never be done! Explore your choices both online and offline. I am sure, soon you will be able to find a session, a trainer, a writer, a holy scripture, a preacher, a guide, a management guru or someone else whose talks will bring that conviction and motivation in you. This is the most difficult part and once this is done, you are all set. Once you find your Teacher, your guide then the rest is history, believe me! For some this exploration is quick and for some, it may take longer but be positive and if you are seeking it with a true intention, it won’t be far!
  • EMBRACE IT WITH YOUR HEART AND SOUL: Now that you have a teacher, be attentive, learn from every lesson taught. Get hooked on to it. Be alert, create your points while you watch, listen or read and be conscious to Embrace those little tips into your daily life;
  • ME TIME: Now you have to bring in these tricks and tips into practical execution, so some moments of Introspection during the day, preferably first thing in the morning or last thing in the night is essential to begin this journey; Ask yourself what went right and what did not go the way you would have ideally liked it! Be your best critic! Tip – Reading your notes from the lessons learnt so far before starting your introspection will be very helpful!
  • LOG IT: Reflect on your thoughts after introspection – create a journal to log in your feelings; Tip – Write in points and write the right and not so right ones with different colors. That will help for a quicker review πŸ™‚
  • CHECK IT: Regularly Review your journal to see the changes and hopefully, you will see that this little exercise is helpful; Gradually, the not so right color will start becoming lesser and lesser! When you are self conscious of your actions then improvements are ought to happen! Please don’t be too harsh on yourself and don’t expect instant results. You did not learn the entire vocabulary in one day, it took you years right and even now, we are not perfect, so just keep trying and you will do good for yourself, I am sure πŸ™‚

If you thought, I will have some easy trick to share, I am afraid but there is no easy way out of this my friend. To each his own!

Its your life and every effort to make it positive and happy is worth it! Isn’t it!

I encourage you to give this a try and see the outcome. I am no management guru but I am positive and confident that these little efforts of introspection and reflection will bring in pleasant changes in the way you are dealing with the life’s challenges!

I would love to hear your story, when do you plan to start or if you already have another mechanism in place from which all of us can benefit! Kindly share in the comments section below.

“Over” a perfect recipe for disaster!

Do you know that there is a very thin line between enough and too much!

Can’t agree more with the phrase: Too much of everything is bad!

Whenever there is a need to add the prefix “Over”; it implies that we are doing that activity in excess or too much than required.

Over-eating, over-sleeping, over-thinking, over-curiosity, over-caring, etc. and you know the most damaging one is the over-confidence!

Have you ever wondered the great message, the great learning hidden in the nature of the most common food ingredient – SALT!

Scenario 1: You realized that your cooked dish has less salt! Can you do something?

  • Of course, you can add little more salt and mix it to make it taste perfect.
  • Even if you can’t, you can still manage to eat it. Though you may not relish that dish too much but you can surely eat it! You agree?

Scenario 2: You have over-salted your cooked dish 😦 What can be done now?

  • Well, like you could add from top in Scenario 1, you don’t have an option of taking out the additional salt from your dish! I am afraid. Once its done its done!
  • You can throw this one and make the dish again.
  • Or add more grains and ingredients to balance the salt content. Whatever you do, the required taste won’t come, I promise you that from my own experience.

From our day to day life, shall we now analyze few similar behaviour examples:

Under the influence of your over confidence, incase you spoke rudely to someone, can you take your words back, indeed not!

If you are over-anxious before your interview, can you perform to the best of your ability; you know the answer, you can’t right!

Try exploring the internet for the ill effects on health from over-eating, over-sleeping, over-thinking, etc.; you will be shocked.

We all are fully aware of our own habits and exactly know which all things we are over-doing, don’t we?

I encourage you to introspect and reflect on your own individual habits and act cautiously next time around, especially with those specific habits. It will be helpful, I promise!

We have options available with us only till we are within the boundary of enough

And if we choose wisely, we can enhance the experience and make it memorable just like a sumptuous dish with the right amount of salt.

But once we have reached the edge and start over-doing anything, it becomes the perfect recipe for disaster! Am I right?

Personally, I feel that Salt also signifies the importance of “balance”. Neither too less, nor too much is good. I also love the fact that though Salt does not seem to have any identity of its own, its kind of self-less but still it is the most important ingredient of our food.

Watch out and be cautious in keeping yourself under constant check! If you can restrain yourself from crossing that line, you will be able to enjoy a more loving, healthy and a fulfilling life. Believe me, this self-awareness will also help you in taking more positive and appropriate decisions.

I encourage you to observe the nature’s elements as each one of them is trying to teach us something important. These little learnings can enhance our life experiences each day!

Would love to hear your comments in the section below.

Watch out – it could be a sign!

The universe sends us signals and warnings from time to time! Do you agree?

You took the effort of deciding in advance on Sunday night about what clothes you will wear to office the following morning to avoid the Monday morning rush, ironed it, all set. After shower, you wore the shirt, ready to leave for that important meeting and Boom!! that last sip of coffee got splashed all over your shirt!!

Down goes your mood :(. Frustration and anger clearly visible on your face now!

The next, you are standing in front of your cupboard looking out for another pre-ironed shirt that can be combined with the trousers you are already wearing.

Think if this is the first time that has happened to you or is it every time you tried to plan your Monday morning or it could be with each time you planned to wear that specific shirt.

It could be a sign!!

Try to think through the message universe is trying to convey to you.

Mind you, not all such instances are signs but when its a sign, somehow you will know. When you close your eyes for a moment, your heart will help you in deciphering and deciding.

It may have happened to get you delayed from the train (you were about to catch) that met with an accident; while you were still at home – an important courier got delivered carrying the good news you were heartily awaiting or could be some other wacky reason.

These signs may seem very illogical to an intellectual mind but to understand the power, just talk to someone who was a no-show on the flight that crashed mid-air? Hearing their real life experiences, you will realize that the universe played its part by doing things that caused the required delay for them restraining them to board those dreadful flights and saved their lives. I know that vice versa situation will also be true but that’s too depressing, so let’s us not visualize that scenario! Let us remain positive and pray for everyone’s wellness! πŸ™‚

Not all signs lead to frustrations, at times, they may end up saving lives!

It is wise to observe and take help of these signs; benefit from the overall universal master plan rather than sulk and get angry!! It’s a known fact that whatever has to happen will happen and universe will create circumstances to make you reach where you ought to be at a specific moment. So why resist?

If you can’t figure out the reason, still, don’t underestimate the power of signs! Go with the flow and you will discover the reasons sooner or later!

Convinced, are you? Either ways, please do leave your feedback in the comments section below. Looking forward to hearing from you!

Yippee, just crossed level 40; Are you still stuck?

Playing puzzle games is so much fun, right; especially the one’s where the difficulty keeps enhancing with each passing level. Its my favorite pass time and I am sure many of my friends reading this too are addicted to some kind of games to relax their mind. Are you with me?

Thanks to smartphones, there are so many interesting games available to keep you mentally occupied and help you de-stress. Okay okay, I can’t miss mentioning Candy Crush, here πŸ™‚ Crossing each level in these games is so satisfying; My mom who has recently got hooked on to Candy Crush, you can see the level of contentment she has every time she victoriously crosses each level. πŸ™‚

If you are a gamer, you will also relate to the feeling of frustration of getting stuck at a particular level. I hate to use hints and want to kill the level all on my own! But few are so tricky and nasty that you just want to get over with those in a jiffy. So hints surely come handy. πŸ˜‰

Have you observed that when you are in a flow, you can cross one level after the other as you get the knack of solving that puzzle, learn the strategy that’s been set around those levels and gradually you keep enhancing your learning and moving ahead!

Recently, I stared playing a puzzle game and just after I cleared the set of levels marked as “Warm up”, I tried attempting a puzzle from “Intermediate” level, which was after skipping “Beginner” and “Easy” levels, thinking that now I understand how to solve and will nail it in first go! Do you think I could do even the first puzzle?

Obviously not! After giving 3-4 tries, I understood, that I have to return to “Beginner” level and gradually come to this one to be able to solve. By the way, I have now cleared “Intermediate” level and mid way to “Medium” level already! Yippee!

What’s in the game that I wish to convey here?

I think our life is also like a puzzle game that we need to solve! Ironically, like the levels, in real life that gets replaced by our age. The challenges for 10s, 20s, 30s, 40s and so on, are sometimes so typical! Do you agree?

Like in the game, can we not consider every up and down moment in our life as a level that we are required to cross? Just a little sportsman spirit and we will be able to cross this journey of life happy, excited and full of energy.

Well, there will be moments when we will get stuck and feel frustrated and lost; but if we can learn to take it in a challenging way like we do in the game, we will be able to cross every hurdle without losing our positivity and morale.

Believe me, every down in life makes you tougher and stronger, so don’t get scared of trying. You will cross it for sure; though for some levels you just need little more perseverance than the rest. Look around for hints!

Mind you, balance is still the key!

Don’t try to jump and play intermediate level before you have crossed the earlier levels as we need to understand that like in the game, also in life we grow and mature gradually; learn the strategy of things and also how to crack them to win it!

Your parents, friends, acquaintances, even your own children may be able to give you some “Tips”, “Hints” or “Clues” to win a particular challenge. No harm in taking help if they have nailed that challenge in their life already. Some hints are worth trying, especially when you are stuck! Do you agree?

Either ways, please share your feedback in the comments section below. Waiting to hear from you!

Alex’s dream – a nightmare or a blessing!

Alex, a young man about 30 years old started experiencing a weird phenomenon each morning; he would be sweaty and panicky each time he woke up. No no, it was nothing to do with his heart or blood pressure 😊; it was indeed a nasty dream that woke him up every day for almost a month.

Looks like he was having nightmares or had someone done black magic on him? What was it?

Interestingly, there were some regular after-effects of this dream too!

When he woke up from his dream each morning, Alex started listing down his to-do things for the day, he was energetic, positive, smiling and looked so full of life! A little scared too but that gradually vanished after a few weeks! Wondering if it was a nightmare, then how come such positive results…..please read on!

Like us, his wife was also very curious and worried in the beginning!

On a normal day, Alex used to be pretty low on energy, kind of a sadist and positive, for sure he was not!

What was happening to him? Was he seeing another woman? Is he cheating on her and thus trying to be nice?

Typical wife thoughts worried her but she was pleasantly surprised to see the changes this dream brought not only in Alex individually but it had worked wonders to their bonding as a family overall. Alex was now a changed person, so loving, caring, happy, smiling & full of positivity. πŸ™‚

Are you anxious to find out more about Alex’s dream?

Okay, Okay, enough suspense built 😎 Getting to the point now!

Alex heard a sound from the universe in his dream that gently told him this:

  • This could be your last day on earth!
  • Remember to live each moment as you may not see another day!
  • Ask forgiveness for your wrong doings and don’t forget to forgive those who need your forgiveness, as that is equally important.
  • Share as much love, happiness and smiles during the day.
  • Mind you, if you are caught with a frown or surrounded by negative emotions, the next breath you take will be your last.

Does this explain Alex’s change in behavior? In the beginning, it worked like a carrot and stick kind of a principle; there were rewards if he listened to the universe and there was punishment too, if he did not obey.

Soon, he understood the depth of the message and started living his life fully each day. Now you can guess, how his scare gradually reduced post the dream, as now he was more conscious in all his doings. His state of satisfaction and contentment helped him fight away his fears!

Would you like to get such a warning dream each day? I think I would love to! πŸ™‚

We don’t know which day or moment is our last but why should we wait for that last day to come for bringing amends in our attitude. Sooner the better, isn’t it!

If we can remind ourselves about this fact each morning, then I truly believe that we will be able to do full justice to each moment that we live and breathe. Create as many smiles as you can, give some blessings and get some blessings too!

So cheer up my friend, let go of your fears, enjoy living in the moment and live life King size!! 🀴🏻okay okay Queen size if you wish so πŸ‘ΈπŸ»πŸ˜ƒ!

Do you agree? Either ways, I look forward to receiving your feedback in the comments section below.

You have got the key!

Irrespective of our age and gender, we all have our favorite foods, sweets, drinks, etc. but can you recall each time you had too much of any of those? The result was ill health, agony, pain, suffering, isn’t it?

Picture courtesy: Shutterstock

Have you ever watched this rope act live, its very interesting to observe, how the actor performs while maintaining their balance on the rope. It calls for a lot of physical as well as mental strength. Just a little shift in their concentration and they get dropped to the ground. Game over 😦

Similarly in real life, our journey is this thin rope that we need to be on and take on the challenges head – on one after the other while maintaining our stability. This is way more tougher as its our life and not just a game that is at stake! What say?

The key of life is in the art of balancing.

Mind your emotions well in time before it becomes too much. To explain it better, I would like to share a few examples:

Too much of love can lead to obsession;

Too much of sorrow may lead to depression;

Too much of pride will lead to arrogance; and

Too much of anger always leads to hurt…..not just for others but for yourself too!

Does this make sense?

We need to be aware of our surroundings and our emotions at all times.

Do regular self-check of your feelings and thoughts. Talk to your friends and loved ones, explain situations and find solutions to move ahead. Getting caught up/ stuck on any one emotion (negative as well as positive) can overpower your thought process, so be wise and use your key, I mean balance – you have the ability, don’t you?

Hope I got a smile on your face! If I did, share a comment with me, so I know πŸ™‚

Are you refreshing your first aid box regularly?

I am sure you have a first aid box at home and I can also bet that every time you check it, you tend to throw a few strips of medicines as they would have crossed their expiry date, isn’t it!

We all understand that it can be dangerous to consume a medicine beyond its expiry date and thus, we are cautious. Agree?

Coming to the point now! As humans, don’t we also know that we have an expiry date too.

But are we conscious enough?

Human body is a gift that God has given us for this journey of life and it is our duty to take care of this body both physically as well as spiritually.

Consider that you are a sailor and this body is your boat that will help you sail through this ocean of life. You have to take care of your boat to ensure that it does not get destroyed before your journey ends. But there is no need to get over indulgent either!

Just like the first aid box, it is crucial that we keep checking our body especially internally for the negativity and regrets that we keep collecting along the way!

These regular checks will help us to ensure that we don’t expire before we expire!

Reflect, introspect and try to correct all your wrong doings while the time is by your side. Create happiness and positivity around and live life king size. πŸ™‚

Checked your first aid box today?

Either ways, please leave your feedback in the comments sections below. It means a lot to me to hear from you!

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