Positive reflections

Once a teenaged boy complained to his teacher that he has no friends, nobody talks to him. The teacher had been observing the boy for last few days in the class already and he had noticed that this boy’s behaviour was rude with everyone. He used to snap at anyone who he interacted with and wanted everything his way. On top of it he was also a big complaint box!

The teacher was very learned, so he thought of teaching the boy with a live example. He calmed the boy down and told him to bring a mirror with him the next day. The boy was astonished and curious about this mirror thing, thinking what would the teacher do.

The next morning, this boy came running to the teacher holding a half body size mirror with him. As soon as he placed the mirror down; Guess what! the teacher told him to drop the mirror and break it! The boy was shocked and reconfirmed the instructions 5 times from the teacher! Why did you tell me to bring it if you wanted me to break it? The teacher looked at him with a calm expression and told him if you want answer to your problem, go ahead and drop it!

There were fragments of mirror everywhere on the floor. The teacher then told the boy to look at the images reflecting in the mirror and make an angry expression on his face. The boy was losing his patience and getting angry with the teacher anyways, so that was not difficult!

What do you see in the mirror pieces? asked the teacher

The boy replied, obviously angry faces. The teacher then told the boy to make a funny face and he did.

What do you see now?

My reflections making funny faces at me too, what else!

The teacher could judge that the boy was losing patience. So to get to the point, he told him, ok smile now, you are about to make friends soon! The boy couldn’t understand what the teacher meant but he obliged. As soon as the boy smiled, he saw all the mirror reflections smiling and that automatically brought out a genuine smile on his face. This smile traveled to his heart and he not only got the message but also felt it emotionally.

To conclude, what we give is reflected back at us, so smile and be positive. When you have a positive mindset, believe me you will reflect positivity all around.

Every morning when you look in the mirror, remind yourself of this little story and smile 🙂 and promise yourself to see more of these smile reflections on the faces of everyone you interact with that day! I promise you that you will be proud of your efforts when you will see yourself in the same mirror every night!

Be watchful as not everyone you will meet will be in a happy and positive frame of mind! You will have to fight out many negative reflections, frowns, teary faces and sadness; please do not get boggled down and keep going. I know its not easy to spread positivity in a negative environment, but for filling the ocean every drop counts!

Did you just smile? did you?

Hold on to your smile and happy reflections and soon your positivity will start reflecting around you. Check it for yourself!

Be mindful of what you are reflecting every day, as the energy you send out is the same energy that reflect back to you too! Reflect right 🙂

Fearing the unknown!

As humans, we have been gifted with the capacity to imagine things in our mind. Now, what we think, dream and imagine solely depends on us!

To set the ball rolling, I looked up the meaning of “Fear” in the dictionary and it is mentioned as an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm.

Recall some important chapters of your life while you were struggling! You will notice that in all those phases, there are some constant factors – Negative imagination, unpleasant emotions, threat of danger, pain, anxiety….or to simply put it FEAR!

While we are anxious, our ability to imagine negatively is at its peak and we develop this “fear of the unknown“. We start imagining the worst in our mind for the situation that we are in and start getting more and more worried and scared! Ironically, we struggle and punish ourselves emotionally much more than it is actually required or worth it.

“What if” – can you relate with this term? When we are in difficult situations, this little term – What if – plays havoc with our mind. We keep enhancing the probability of the problem multifold in our own head resulting in more anxiety, more fear and sadness. In reality, things may not go wrong beyond 10- 20% but here we are with our imagination already fearing the situation getting 200% worse and backing it up with tears, sorrow, gloom and demotivation. Do you agree?

Next time you are in a situation, try this little trick of positive thinking! Tame your mind to think and imagine positive outcomes to the situation and don’t let your mind take the negative road it has always taken. Believe me, it will be difficult for the initial few times but once in practice, your life journey will become a much pleasant and happy experience!

God has the masterplan and His plan is way beyond our imagination. So keep faith, think positive and let go of your fears!

Hope you can relate to this! I will be glad to receive your thoughts and feedback in the comments section below.

Thank God life is not a “bed of roses”!

You must have also come across that old English expression “Bed of roses” relating to life. Out of curiosity, I just checked the meaning of the phrase on Wikipedia and it says “carefree life“. This expression has been widely used to express a wonderful life without any worries or difficulties.

Well, imagine for a second sleeping literally on a bed of roses. It may feel great for initial 15 minutes but post that I am sure it will start irritating you a lot. Forget about sound sleep, you won’t get any sleep at all. You may also start getting itchy in the bargain :). Mind you, it won’t take long for the perfume and aroma of the roses to turn to unbearable foul smell with each passing minute!

The point I wish to make here is what looks so beautiful in our imagination figuratively may not be a great experience literally.

We can ask for an uneventful life but mind you it will get real boring pretty soon! Think of a life that is carefree and relaxed all through with a set routine for everything. You have time for sleeping, eating, leisure, etc. but without any challenges. You can play but no one wins and no one loses. It will be such a drag, isn’t it?

To make life an exciting and a fulfilling experience, we need our dose of challenges to maintain that balance. These challenges and the down moments as I called it in my last blog (check it out if you haven’t read it yet!), are crucial to help us get a holistic view on life. Ideally, it is owing to these downs that we can appreciate the ups in our life. Do you agree?

Ok, think about this! In life which memories do we cherish more?

Are those the ones where everything was great and perfect, just like the expression of “bed of roses”!

OR

The ones when we got through tough circumstances, struggled and then finally sailed through?

Would you need a minute to think, no I know you gave an instant answer for the latter, isn’t it !! 🙂

That is how we like our life with a pinch of salt! These ups and downs, few challenges that we win and the memories that we create along the way through this journey called life is what makes a memorable experience. It would be so boring if life went in a straight line or only had an upward trend to it. We tend to enjoy the ups more only when we have experienced the downs and we know how it feels being both ways!

So, I pray to God for blessing me with a balanced life and not just a bed of roses 😉 How about you?

Life – its so unpredictable!

Life, a simple 4 letter word is a journey that each one of us has to go through! Its a journey that we solely endure and go through its ups and downs coming at a random pace.

Some ups and downs, especially downs, we can foresee coming and we kind of prepare ourselves mentally to handle those, e.g. some known health issues, few relationship constraints and disconnects, work related problems, etc.

During the ups, we get to see only the brighter side of things and it looks like a dream come true and while we are deeply engrossed enjoying the pleasures of life; Boom!! comes a jerk that drives us off our feet! Can you relate?

Imagine if we are always ready for whatever came our way and accepted it as God’s will.

Ironically, we are very biased towards these situations. The good ones we want to take the credit ourselves and the bad ones are promptly put in God’s kitty. Have a look at a few examples below:

I have worked so hard to get this promotion! – The doer is I with no reference to God’s will.

I have burned the mid night oil to earn this degree! – Here again, the doer is I

Oh, I didn’t clear that exam, must be God’s will!as soon as something negative is referred, we never lose a chance to blame it on God.

Like it or not, everything indeed is happening as per God’s will and it is this sense of doer-ship that we possess that enhances our ego and brings more pain than happiness. Because when we are so filled up with this ego and especially when the things around us are going in the direction we want them to go, we start thinking and believing that we are the doer, but are we the doer?

God has created the master plan and He knows and has already fitted everything and everyone in the scheme of things for a perfect outcome. But our vision is limited and inspired by our current circumstances, our past experiences and our future aspirations.

God is not a critic and He knows our caliber and capabilities much more than we ourselves know. We may underestimate and underplay our capabilities sometimes but God has His own strange ways of putting us in situations where we get a chance to polish our strengths and perform and most of times, out – perform our own expectations. I am sure, each one of us has a few examples of this scenario, isn’t it?

Ideally, when God has bigger plans for us than our own aspirations, that is when directions change, perspectives differ, decisions turn and we are taken aback shocked, devastated and sometimes broken.

Recall some important situations from your past and you will notice that God may have given you much more than what you even aspired to achieve. So let go of this sense of doer-ship, try to be happy in the will of God. I am positive this will help you enhance your chances of growth and prosperity manifold. Don’t hold back, give it a try with complete faith!

Time to take a “Pause”!

Look at the brighter side of things! Think positively 🙂

Think yourself as an “Actor” in a movie and God as the “Director”. Now, the final run of the movie is being played in front of you before the movie is released and there is a chance only for some cosmetic changes but the story line needs to remain as is! Confused?

I mean to talk about Karma, the good deeds that we do during the course of our life. By cosmetic changes, I mean, you can continue to do good deeds all along and these will help make your life’s experience more fulfilling and beautiful. But please remember! the story line cannot change! What you have already sown, you will have to reap as part of the story’s present outcome.

In return of your good deeds and good Karma, God will give you the strength to bear the struggles that you have to go through in your life. Also, your self awareness that you are not the doer will help you in dealing with situations with a calm mind and least anxiety.

Though life is unpredictable but as per God’s master plan it is full of more surprises than shocks for each one of us! Agree?

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

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You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
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The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

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  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
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