Parents, Spouses, Friends, Colleagues……everyone seems to struggle with this one!
Oh! S/he will never understands me!
We always have our point of view, our thoughts, our beliefs and not to miss, our very own expectations and ironically, we have a lot of expectations from our children, our better halves, our friends and colleagues to understand all of these, even without us saying it! Do you agree?
Okay, to bring things to better perspective…. let’s try this little exercise!
Stop, Don’t go!
You can read this simple sentence in so many ways and everyone can have a totally different version of what’s the message being conveyed from the tone, body language, pitch, etc., isn’t it!
The point I am trying to make is that sometimes, no everytime, our Expectations and Perceptions are different than others.
Then, why can’t we just say what we are expecting from the other person, rather than waiting for it to come from them and keep sulking over it 😦
Imagine a loving couple with different ways of expression, which is the case 99% of the times. I can bet that they will be unhappy their whole life; as the wife will keep expecting for the hubby to express and the hubby on the other hand will also be expecting for the wife to understand his love from his subtle actions as he does not believe in expressing with words….
Now, tell me is it absence of love or just different mindsets which is to be blamed. Actually, no one is wrong in this scenario but they are not happy either 😦 Is this agony really worth it?
Trust me, most of time it is indeed just poor communication that can break relationships.
Please remember my friend, when you love them, be it your parents, spouse, friends, and sometimes close colleagues as well…. then just say it what you want from them. It will help bring in a lot of satisfaction, happiness, contentment and team spirit in a relationship, Do you agree?
To conclude: Life is too short to complain, dear! Express yourself, don’t wait for your loved one to understand on their own, cause if its late, one will have to live with that gap / guilt for the rest of their lives 😦 Don’t sulk, don’t complain, if they don’t understand what you want from them…….JUST SAY IT! They may not agree or obey in one go but if they love you, trust me, they will try 🙂